I’m the other woman…
I’m the other woman in All that glitters - my side….
I first met him through a dating app 2017/2018 we had a short but intense relationship which ended after a row. This guy has form of wanting to end things after a row rather than do the adult thing and talk things through. I'd do the social media stalking and see who he was with. At some point he seemed to be with a lovely woman and I was happy for them, somewhere in my naivety, I kept thinking he was 'the one that got away' and that there was unfinished business there.
Skip to November 2020. I'd lost my dad to covid in the April and had a brief relationship to numb the pain but knew it wasn't going anywhere and just a distraction. Suddenly he was looking at my stories on Instagram, I reached out. We talked like old times, our feelings hadn't changed. We got back together (little did I know, he had barely broken up with her). In 2021 his son suddenly moved in with him. He needed time, I'd wait... I'd wait a lifetime for him. His son was damaged and going through gcses, he needed his dad. They ended up moving away but I'd still see him, we decided to keep our relationship 'casual' but we always told each other we loved each other, in my eyes there was no one else.
Fast forward December 2022, he rang me crying, howling... our situation wasn't enough. He loved me dearly but he needed more. I couldn't give him that, a single mum with a child with additional needs. We went our separate ways, promising to remain the best of friends. His bed was barely warm and she was back in there. He'd done a job on her, convinced her he had had therapy (lies) that he had been single for two years (more lies). When I confronted him I was blocked. Pained at losing him I got on with my life. I had therapy, I focused on my children. Then January 2025 he sends a message and deletes it. I foolishly reply and we get talking. He tells me things aren't right in his relationship. I want to be a friend (God knows why, he doesn't deserve it). I'm finding he's dragging me down though, his conversation is always negative. Then I get a message from her via Facebook messenger. At first I'm not sure I want to reply, my gut tells me to. It was the best thing I ever did. He is cruel, manipulative and has lied about so many things. I told him I wasn't going to go into the ins and outs but I'd spoken to her, my head was in a good place and for that I didn't want to be his friend. He is blocked on everything and will never be unblocked. She is amazing, strong and kind. We will have that drink, and we know if he ever knew how close we had become he would be seething, because we have finally broken that hold he has on us both.